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Story

It’s Story Time

I have written before on this blog about stories, but it is a theme I keep coming back to because stories are so important in our lives. We tell ourselves stories every day. Are they empowering or limiting? Those are really the only two kinds of stories we can tell—empowering or limiting. I, for one,…

Thoughts

The Think Police: Arrest the Thoughts In Your Head

Thoughts are a funny thing—they seem so true and legitimate, but are they really? Is everything you think real? Does everything you think have to be true? The answer, unequivocally, is no! You do not have to believe everything you think. Getting control of your thoughts is one of the first things you can do…

Accountability

The Secret to Accountability

The New Year is a great time to talk about accountability. It is a time to dream big and set goals for the coming year. This is the easy part. The hard part if figuring out how to stay accountable to yourself and your goals. There are so many systems out there for organizing your…

Greatness

Be Great in This Moment

I have been reading the book, “Tiny Habits: The Small Changes That Change Everything” by BJ Fogg, and he invites everyone to start practicing a new habit first thing every morning. He calls this the “Maui Habit,” and it is really quite simple. After you wake up and put your feet on the ground, you…

Pave the Way

The Best Lessons Learned Aren’t Learned in School

Back in 1978, when I was in sixth grade, I had the ideal life–two loving parents, two (mostly) loving sisters, a new 10-speed bike (a recent upgrade from my beloved purple banana seat bike that I had recently outgrown), my own bedroom, and hardly any chores. My dad was executive vice president at one of…

Comfort Zone

Get Comfortable with Discomfort

The thing about a comfort zone is it is so…comfortable. We know everything about how we should feel and how we should act in a comfort zone. It is easy. It is predictable. It is controllable. It is comfortable. But we do not grow by doing what we already know we can do. We are…

Breakout

Breaking Bad or Good

I love the idea of word play and how by changing one syllable, a word can mean something entirely different. Take breakout and breakdown for instance. Breakout is such a positive word. It means to separate from the crowd, to take the lead, or to just do something differently from everybody else. Breakdown, on the…

Masks COVID

What Masks Are We Wearing?

I have been a student of the Enneagram for a few years now. The Enneagram is an ancient personality typing system that uses nine ways to categorize peoples’ personalities. The general definition of personality is our patterns of thinking, feeling, and acting, but in the book, “The Sacred Enneagram: Finding Your Unique Path to Spiritual…

Self Confidence

What’s Wrong with Being Confident?

What do you think of when I say self-confidence? Do you lean into it with a, “Heck yeah—I am good to go. I know who I am, where I am going, and who I’m taking along for the ride?” Or do you shrink away from the concept, and think, “I really need to work on…

Decision Fork In the Road

The 10% Factor In Decisions

When I was a kid growing up in the ’70s and ’80s, I didn’t really understand that the decisions I made had any consequences. You got up, went to school, played with your friends, did your chores, and life went on. It never occurred to me that I had a choice about whether it was…