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Comfort Zone

Get Comfortable with Discomfort

The thing about a comfort zone is it is so…comfortable. We know everything about how we should feel and how we should act in a comfort zone. It is easy. It is predictable. It is controllable. It is comfortable. But we do not grow by doing what we already know we can do. We are…

Breakout

Breaking Bad or Good

I love the idea of word play and how by changing one syllable, a word can mean something entirely different. Take breakout and breakdown for instance. Breakout is such a positive word. It means to separate from the crowd, to take the lead, or to just do something differently from everybody else. Breakdown, on the…

Masks COVID

What Masks Are We Wearing?

I have been a student of the Enneagram for a few years now. The Enneagram is an ancient personality typing system that uses nine ways to categorize peoples’ personalities. The general definition of personality is our patterns of thinking, feeling, and acting, but in the book, “The Sacred Enneagram: Finding Your Unique Path to Spiritual…

Self Confidence

What’s Wrong with Being Confident?

What do you think of when I say self-confidence? Do you lean into it with a, “Heck yeah—I am good to go. I know who I am, where I am going, and who I’m taking along for the ride?” Or do you shrink away from the concept, and think, “I really need to work on…

Decision Fork In the Road

The 10% Factor In Decisions

When I was a kid growing up in the ’70s and ’80s, I didn’t really understand that the decisions I made had any consequences. You got up, went to school, played with your friends, did your chores, and life went on. It never occurred to me that I had a choice about whether it was…

Together

Are We In This Together?

When the coronavirus pandemic hit and lockdown started, we heard a lot about togetherness. “We are in this together” was the common refrain of everyone from TV pundits to grocery store clerks, from neighbors to coworkers. I loved all this talk of togetherness because I actually believe in it. We truly are better as a…

Looking Forward

Looking Forward

One of the best things about getting up every morning is that I get to decide what the day is going to be like. Just like packing for a trip, where I decide what to bring and what to leave behind, I get to decide what I am going to bring into the day. Am…

Stories

What Stories Are You Telling?

Every good story has a victim, a villain, and a guide. The victim of the story sets out on a journey and loses a few battles with the villain. Then the victim meets the guide, who shows him how to become a victor, and the victim eventually emerges as the hero. Think of the original…

Puppeteer Square

The Illusion of Control

This past Thursday was the deadline for early action admissions at Georgia Tech and UGA, two schools to which our 18-year-old son is applying, and oh!—how I wished I were in control of his schedule. If it were me, I would have had the application completed and the essays written weeks ago. But I did…

Frame

What Frame Are You Choosing?

“You pick your endings and your beginnings. You get to pick the frame, you know? Maybe you don’t choose what’s in the picture, but you decide on the frame.” —John Green, “Turtles All the Way Down” I love this quote because it applies to everything in life. You get to decide your frame—no matter where…